When Birth Feels Scary

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You’ve been planning for this day for months, maybe even years. You’ve read all the books, taken the classes, written The Birth Plan and carefully selected your care provider. You can play it out in your head moment by moment. Your ideal birth. For everyone, it looks different, but you envision yourself as confident, secure, and supported by your team. Your …

A Childless Doula

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I know. I’m the odd woman out. One of many who identify as a Childless Doula. No children for as far as the eye can see. In a profession where many have come to it through their own birth experiences, I didn’t. I didn’t have a traumatic birth and yearn to prevent that for other women. I didn’t have an incredible birth supported by …

Stifling Confidence

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Some of our first interactions with clients, especially first time parents, looks something like this: they ask a few questions, apologize for asking said questions, and then say “I just feel so stupid about everything.” At what point did seeking out knowledge and information become something to be embarrassed about?  Why do these inquisitive parents-to-be feel that somehow their thirst of answers …

Ways for Partners to Bond with the Breastfed Child

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We hear this a lot: “I want to breastfeed, but my partner wants to know how they’ll be able to bond with the baby if they can’t feed them.” This implies that feeding your baby is the only way to bond with your baby.  Let me be clear, breastfeeding is an incredible bonding experience, and it’s understandable why your partner could potentially feel …

How Can I Love Another Baby?

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As I near the end of my pregnancy, carrying my second child, my anxiety rises. I wonder how I can possibly love another baby like I love my sweet daughter, Harleigh. I wonder how I could abandon her like this and bring another baby into our lives who will steal some of the attention she is so accustomed to. I have great days, …

What’s a Postpartum Plan?

You’ve probably heard this question many times throughout your pregnancy. “Have you written a birth plan?” “What’s in your birth plan?” “What kind of birth experience do you want?” “Are you bringing a birth plan with you to the hospital?” While the birth experience is a life altering, mind-blowing, incredibly transformative event many consider to be the start to motherhood, …

The Dress and a Lesson on Perception

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The dress. Oh my god, this dress. The level of fury produced by this piece of fabric will surely go down in internet history.  You think Kim Kardashian broke the internet? HA! Leave it to some silk and lace to have people in a raging fit. White & Gold? Blue & Black? Or as my (color-blind) husband said “I see …

5 Ways to Focus During Labor

We all know how difficult it can be to really focus & find that mental “sweet spot” during labor, especially in a hospital birth with the beeping machines, bright lights, and check-ins from staff.  Here’s just a few things our own clients have found useful to get in the zone during those active stages of labor. 1. One contraction at …